As someone who was once a junior golfer and now coaches young players, I offer a perspective that not many can. Having been on both sides of the game, I understand the unique challenges faced by young golfers and their parents. Here are some tips and tricks I wish I had when I was growing up as a junior golfer...
First, let’s dial down the intensity. Golf is a challenging sport with no perfect round. Holding your junior golfer to unrealistic expectations only adds unnecessary pressure. Smile, laugh, and make jokes. Show your child how proud you are of them for competing in such a demanding sport.
When they finish their round, resist the urge to immediately ask them about their score or performance. This can create a sense of disappointment if they didn’t perform as expected and make them feel they’ve let you down. Instead, start by telling them you love them and how proud you are of them for even participating at this level, reminding them not many can do what you’re doing. This positive reinforcement will help them associate their performance with encouragement rather than pressure.
Too many questions about performance can cause negative associations with poor outcomes. Poor performance is inevitable in golf, so how you initially communicate with them can greatly ease their performance anxiety.
As a coach, I aim to teach my juniors what I wish I had known at their age. Having matured and gained more perspective, I can confidently say your parents want the best for you. Their actions stem from pure excitement for your journey, so remember to smile and be nice. At the end of the day, the only person you can control is yourself and your reactions.
So, to any parents and juniors out there reading this, take my advice and go get ’em! Let your love for the game and your support system guide you to success.